Thursday 25 April 2013

UNENDING CIRCLE OF ABUSE FROM MY HUSBAND...... READ AMAKA'S SAD STORY

This has got to be one of the most disturbing things we have ever read. On the 1st of March 2013, a Nigerian woman based in Canada named Amaka Munonye published a blogpost detailing her 15 year journey of abuse with her soon-to-be ex-husband.
Amaka is sharing her story to garner support as she has lost custody of her 2 children and her fear is that her predicament will be permanent if she does not speak out.
Amaka's sad story...............
Amaka was a bright young medical student at the University of Nigeria Nsukka when she had to leave her university because she was being harassed by a cult member who wanted “to marry her”. The cultists were arrested and she was advised not to attend any other university in Nigeria due to the fear of retaliatory attacks by fellow cultists.
She moved back to Lagos where her loving family began making arrangements for her to relocate to Canada. During this time, she had a job at a hospital.
She met a Ghanaian “pastor” who claimed he had visited her house to visit her brother. They became friends and one day after night vigil, she ended up at his house because her estate gate was locked. He raped her that morning. After that, she was traumatized and stopped talking to him.
He kept stalking her to “forgive” him and convinced her that if she did not, she would be cursed. After years of waiting, her Canadian Immigration Application moved to the next stage when she forgave him. This convinced her that he was a powerful man of God and had some sort of supernatural influence over her.
Before she left for Canada, he assaulted her again – he then cut her and himself. At that time, he joined their open wounds and claimed they had a blood oath. He scared her by telling her that she or anyone she slept with would die.
When Amaka got to Canada, Chris continued to stalk her with incessant phone calls. At a point, she met up with an old crush, they made out (kissed) and kept in touch via the phone when he got back to Nigeria. She didn’t hear from him for a few weeks and then found out that he died. This traumatized her further and gave credibility to Chris’ claims about their blood oath.
For a reason she cannot explain, Amaka went to Ghana to marry Chris, she filed for Canadian Residency for him and also dropped out of school in Canada to move to Ghana to stay with him. Her parents did not know about her marriage or her move to Ghana. Chris used and abused her in Ghana including stripping her in public, beating her and more but still she stayed. She tried to leave a few times but always went back.
When they both returned to Canada after Chris’ immigration request was approved, he did not get a job but instead raped and abused her frequently. She was so disconnected from her family that she did not attend her dear father’s funeral because Chris allegedly threatened to harm their child. She lost friends including a close friend who loaned her $5000 to help she and Chris relocate to Canada from Ghana.
In addition, he embarked on adulterous relationships with other women. He was unable to read and write, yet, he launched a church which she technically co-founded. Over the years, according to Amaka, while trying to defend herself from his constant abuse, the Police has been called in and her husband managed to implicate her leading to her being arrested on multiple occasions.
She has managed to progress her education and keep steady jobs during their marriage. The couple has 2 children and based on Amaka’s account, Chris does not care about the children’s education and health. He was complacent and left their daughter in the care of a potential child molester.
Amaka was recently arrested after a fight with Chris and custody of her 2 children was awarded to her husband, she is trying to fight to get her children back. She needs support and funds for legal representation.


NOTE: Amaka's story is extremely long story and reader discretion is advised due to the graphic nature of Amaka’s experiences. 

Read her full story HERE >>

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